We all do it in one degree or another, we assume. Remember that old saying; if you assume something, you make an ass out of you and me. Or something like that. Seriously though we all do it, or well I guess I mean, I do it. The last time I bought grapes I thought, they look good, they’ll taste just fine. I assumed they would without trying them, mainly because I haven’t figured out yet if it’s stealing if I don’t buy them but I still ate that one and I don’t think you can pay for that one lonely grape.
We also do something that in my opinion is similar to assumption, it’s called judgement. Here’s a common one in my life: she tripped up the stairs, she must be drinking again. Here’s another one: she has Bipolar Disorder, she’s insane. Do you see where the assumption leads to a judgement in those cases? You can change the she to a he if you like. I have told NO ONE except those that frequent here at The She Chronicles of my Alcoholic Bipolarized Mind, no one in my face to face life, not that there are any people who would care if I speak or breathe in their presence. I don’t tell anyone because of the stigmas and judgements that come with saying it aloud.
Since the Charlie Sheen debacle started I have heard the same thing over and over again from people in this neighborhood, “I heard last night he was Bipolar, I never thought he was INSANE!” The last time I heard it I walked up and said “Who’s insane?” I already knew because I was being nosey and eaves dropping but my opinion is if you scream the damn word, I’ve got the right to butt in. “Oh I heard Charlie Sheen was insane last night on CNN, he’s BIPOLAR!” Here I am thinking in my mind that I could bust this person out on their damn stigmatized judgemental face right now but I didn’t, just nodded and said, “Hmmmmmm interesting, never knew he was.”
I need to make it clear right now that Charlie Sheen has never publicly announced he is Bipolar even with his #BiWinning campaign, this is only a huge assumption on my part. I’m assuming this on what I have seen over the past few months out of him and I also need to make it clear that I have come to this assumption by what I have seen through the media so this assumption could be completely, utterly false OR it could be right on.
I’m not perfect, I do still assume even though it annoys me at times. I also still judge, which annoys me to a degree of anger at times especially because I judge myself harder than I do anyone else.
How about you all? Are you judged in your life because of a mental illness? Alcoholism? Addictions? Do people assume because you tripped up the stairs you must have had a few drinks? Do you assume the grapes are good or do you eat that one lonely grape?